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Just finished reading Luna (I try to read all kinds of TG books to gain perspective other than my own) and felt compelled to look at Hope in bed. So peaceful, just sleeping like an angel. I can’t imagine telling my child to either conform to their birth gender or leave my home. To give an ultimatum like that. Nevertheless, countless transgender children are on the street at this very moment, homeless because their parents will not accept them. My heart aches when I think of all those children.
There has to be a way to reach out & help these kids. Where do they go? How can we find them? Quick research shows that many are forced into prostitution or commit suicide. Is that any type of childhood? Who is caring for these innocent little children? Who is showing love to them? The sense of panic consumes me as I watch my child, safe in her bed. Snuggled tight in the safety of our home and our love.
Hope is different precisely because you “can’t imagine telling (your) child to either conform to their birth gender or leave (your) home.” My loving and accepting her just as she is, you’ve given her an amazing leg up on the majority of TG kids out there.
Will she still face adversity? Of course. Because facing, dealing with and overcoming adversity is part of being human.
Sadly my now ex husband is that kind of parent. He actually has gone as far to deny she is his daughter and the family has disowned me over Chris. I hate to say this but it was the best thing that could have happened as she is now free to be the girl she was meant to be. It is so sad about these kids and the fact people treat them so mean.
I would love them, poor children. It’s like people treat my boyfriend with sacral agenesis as less than a person–he’s not broken, he’s different! And he’s my love. I don’t understand why people are so afraid of different. You’re a good woman, and I support you.
Thanks Wendy- I hope so. Love comes first.
I am sorry you had to go through that Melissa, and you have an amazing outlook. You are an incredible mother for facing such hatred and being so courageous for your child. Chris is so lucky to have you as a mom and advocate. And I am inspired by your bravery.
Elizabeth- How does your boyfriend handle people’s reactions? I agree with you. I just want to spread my love to children in need. WE are so lucky that we have each other in our family. I firmly believe that by living in an authentic way we can change the world. The barriers that stand in the way of trans individuals will decrease in time as people open their hearts & minds.
Thank you for sharing with us & Best wishes to all of you- Jen
My boyfriend is really amazing. Children yelling and pointing don’t faze him a bit–he laughs nicely and goes to talk to them if they’ll sit still. Adults who react badly he just sort of shrugs it off. He doesn’t see his disability as something wrong or as something to fix–given the opportunity, he would turn down a set of legs because he’s happy in who he is. He’s a very self-affirmed individual.
If Hope can get to the point where she loves herself and is comfortable in who she truly is above all things, she will absolutely blossom and nothing will touch her. With family like you, I see that as very likely