Comments on: The Wheels on the Train Wreck Go Round & Round

By: TodayYouAreYou

TodayYouAreYou — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 02:39:02 +0000

Jo- I wish that the year 2010 will be different, but as we know it’s going to take a little time. The understanding is beginning out there but we need more stories to be told. We need more voices and advocates. Things are slowly changing and hopefully we are doing our part to make this a more loving world for everyone.

I am shocked by the story you related from the UK. Schools are tricky. I had to hire the ACLU to help me work with the school system (along with TYFA & another organization that supports safe schools) and it is still a work in progress. Our story is different since Hope goes to school stealth; however, I can only imagine the permanent damage that child suffered because of that type of harassment. You would think educators would have a better handle on how to promote the safety and well being of their students. Our hearts DO need to open, as well as our minds.

Thank you for tuning me in to that story & keep in touch. Best- Jen

By: jo perry

jo perry — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 23:44:10 +0000

There was a story recently in ythe UK, a young transgender child had decided to return back to school as her true self rather than the boy she left as. Her school did an awful thing, they held an assembly and just told the whole school, outed her to all bluntly. the poor child was victimised, put on the frontpage of papers, every journalist believed they had a right to comment despite not having any experience of the matter, her mother was equally villified for supporting her transition and praised.
I wish they had read your blog, understood the childs srtength and agony in making this decision. It’s nearly 2010, isn’t it time our minds finally opened?

By: TodayYouAreYou

TodayYouAreYou — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 17:20:34 +0000

Thank you April. I think we need to get fiery sometimes to create opportunities for change. I appreciate your support. My Best- Jen

By: sissygrl

sissygrl — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 03:58:07 +0000

Hey there friends, what a pleasure it is to find such a strong group of allies in support of human rights and freedom of expression. The transgendered life certainly does separate the sheep from the Momma Bear who protects her cub at all cost.

I am a 58 year old post-op male to female [Two-Spirits] transexual with a lot to say about the societal oppression of human and gender rights, the judgment of the church, an apathetic government and a corporate media unresponsive to the needs of the transgendered community.

Whoops, sorry. I DO get fiery.

Thanks for doing a difficult job with courage and compassion.

April ‘Rosie’ Schneider

By: melissanc

melissanc — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 04:24:47 +0000

Each day an adventure. U am so glad to hear things worked out for you. And you had only the best of intentions so dont beat yourself up over it! I planned Chris’s transition down to every detail or so I thought. We had done everything in baby steps where everyone knew her as a boy. her hair growing out, progressively more feminine clothes just not TOO feminine and then the day came when we moved and we went stealth and out came the dresses and bangs and long curls and we knew that no one would ever know that my doll baby had been born male!

Or so I thought.After a year and a half of a perfect situation it all came to a halt in the mall one day. Chris and I were shopping and I hear a voice call out to me and there 400 miles from my former home stood my ex neighbor and her daughter. And her is Chris, yellow dress, painted nails and pigtails. Eek! Well that was the most uncomfortable few minutes of my life. Her daughter just walked up and asked how come Chris is a girl. And Chris say because I AM a girl! And that was that. They did fine. Her mom had a stroke though. Thankfully she has chosen not to be friends anymore but at least she did not ” out ” us back home!

I have come to the conclusion that no matter how hard you plan you will run into issues. Just do the best you can and always in the best interest of your girl. We are truly lucky to have our children.

By: TodayYouAreYou

TodayYouAreYou — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 16:11:52 +0000

Thank you Ms. Darkstar… you are right. Every step teaches us something and i we remain open to learning we don’t have to make the same mistakes over & over. She had a lovely party and I am thrilled that it all worked out.

I really needed to hear that Bluntpencil- and I appreciate that. I’m not perfect. I get impatient, I do things I wish I hadn’t… but that is parenting I guess. I just keep trying. I am grateful for the kind words.

Best- Jen

By: bluntpencil

bluntpencil — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 05:49:35 +0000

you do what you can and believe me when I say, you’re a really great mum.

By: MsDarkstar

MsDarkstar — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 19:37:15 +0000

I am so glad everything worked out. I can’t imagine what it must have been like to be pretty much holding your breath for an entire party.

You weren’t thinking about it when you invited people because when you are IN a situation, you don’t think about things like that. You stepped back, though and caught what could have been an issue (which, thankfully, wasn’t).

I’m glad Hope had a nice party. I think as time goes on, maybe there will be more times you can enjoy these situations, as well.