By: TodayYouAreYou

TodayYouAreYou — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 18:36:00 +0000

Thank you for your thoughts & sharing parts of your life with us Adriana. My daughter actually transitioned three years ago so she is already living her life authentically, and is much happier for it.

By: Leatrix

Leatrix — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 05:12:40 +0000

Great insight. Reevlied I’m on the same side as you.

By: Adriana

Adriana — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 19:16:24 +0000

Your experience is a typical one, darling. Most of us had a similar behaviour as kids, and even though it is easier to “spot” such different (or rather unexpected) behaviour when the “boy” wants to wear dresses, asks for pink things and/or plays with dolls or other girl’s toys, the fact remains the same. The girl is INSIDE, therefore it is just as common for a “boy” to act, play and dress as any other boy……..in public, meaning even his/her parents. I know cause I was one of those kids. Perhaps it is not so common nowadays, for there is a lot more info about sexual identity, sexual orientation and more. But, still, there are many many times when a kid feeling this way fears the rejection it could cause to “show” his/her true feelings. If your daughter is able to show them, even only at home, you can feel secure that she is not afraid of you, as parents, friends and confidents. She trusts you, and so should you. The term “through a phase” is, indeed, pretty usual in these cases. But, hey, it is also used a lot when talking about teenagers as well. A phase could be an infatuation with some toy or other, but, believe me, not with your self-being. To me, in my own experience, that “phase” is the one in which we want to fit in, to be like any other boy (or girl, if it’s the other way round…), to act tough or, at least, the least conspicous you can. That “phase”, the one in which I tried to kid myself I could impose the feeling of being male to my own REAL feelings, endured more than three decades. I became aware of my true-self aged 4, but I couldn0t accept it until….34. I finally came to accept myself and the fact that these feelings (of being female) weren’t going away at all. Now, aged 38, my life is better than ever. I don’t feel any regrets and all those fears went away. The woman I am now is the one it should have been from the beginning. MY beginning was at 34…….please let your daughter have it (if she feels happy with it) as soon as possible. Don’t let her lead a miserable life. She’ll thank you in the future. Please feel free to share your thoughts with me. Best regards from Argentina, Adriana

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