Comments on: Unlocking the Doors To My Past http://todayyouareyou.com/2009/09/14/unlocking-the-doors-to-my-past/ "Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you." Dr. Seuss Thu, 09 Feb 2012 01:59:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: TodayYouAreYou http://todayyouareyou.com/2009/09/14/unlocking-the-doors-to-my-past/comment-page-1/#comment-35 Wed, 16 Sep 2009 12:28:31 +0000 http://todayyouareyou.com/?p=86#comment-35 My heart goes out to you at The BluntPencil… although my circumstances are a little different, I can relate to having a parent that does not agree with your choices. My mom told me that I am ruining Hope’s life by embracing who she is. I think some parents live in a place of fear- fear of the unknown, fear of people’s reactions to them, fear of being different.

I am trying to remember that (as adults) our parents and family are one facet of our lives (and it sounds like you have a very fulfilling life :) and they are going to be who they are no matter what choices we make. Still, I wish that going home didn’t mean hiding who you are.

Your support gives me the courage to tell another story and embrace another day- whatever that brings. I appreciate that you reached out here & feel so inspired by your comments. Truly- thank you.

]]> By: the bluntpencil http://todayyouareyou.com/2009/09/14/unlocking-the-doors-to-my-past/comment-page-1/#comment-34 Wed, 16 Sep 2009 03:56:48 +0000 http://todayyouareyou.com/?p=86#comment-34 Hi Jen, tried sending this via email but somehow it kept bouncing back.

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You don’t know me but I’ve been following your blog for a few weeks now. I can’t even remember how I stumbled upon your blog but I did. And as I started reading, my heart went out to you, and to Hope.

I think you’re incredibly brave and more than anything, you’re the epitome of unconditional love. You’ve really shown that it is possible for a mother’s love to be unconditional. I almost find myself envying Hope because she has a mother who doesn’t care what the rest of the world thinks.

I’m lesbian and out to everyone (my friends, at work, etc) except my parents. I sometimes find myself quite hypocritical because fundamentally, I believe in GLBT rights and the need to stand up for ourselves – I work at an accounting firm in Australia (but I’m not an accountant, LOL) and am one of the founding members of the GLBT network, often trying to push the envelope where GLBT rights are concerned – yet, I’m not out to the most important people in my life. And truth be told, I don’t think I will ever be. As an Asian lesbian whose parents live in Singapore and are staunchly Christian, I just don’t know how I will ever broach the topic of my sexuality.

But anyway, this email is not about me. It’s about you, and how much I admire you and your determination to make Hope’s world a safe place for her. I know that my ‘struggles’ (and I use that term very loosely because I honestly don’t think I’m under any duress with the exception of my annual visit to Singapore when I go back into the closet over the Christmas holidays) are nothing compared to yours and Hope’s. But you know what? I think she already has half the battle won. The people she needs most and loves her most are already on her side.

Kudos to you Jen. Sending positive vibes your way as Hope starts a new term in school.

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